I'm up first...
Up until I was in about 11th grade, I pretty much felt invisible around guys. Like I wasn’t pretty enough or funny enough or smart enough to stand out in a crowd, so why bother? I’d just hang back with my friends (who pretty much dressed in the same bland and oversized clothes) and watched the world go by.
The thing was, I had been going to school with many of the same kids for years, and guys had never paid particular attention to me before…so my thought was, why should they now?
What I was overlooking was the simple fact that we were all changing, and I was paying them new and more notice, whether I was showing it or not. I mean, wow, that formerly chubby guy was now football buffed. That twerp who sat beside me in sixth grade was a head taller now--and WHAT a head! And the guy with the locker above me actually needed to shave…
So this is what I bring to the table to girls in high school:
You may feel invisible, too. But guys totally notice you. Even the ones who look right through you and pretend not to know you’re alive. Even the ones with popular, fashionista girlfriends. Even the shy or geeky ones (especially the shy and geeky ones). Even the exchange students or the guys who “just transferred here for one year and can’t wait to go back”.
They are looking. So know it. Run with it…play with it…have fun with it. Who cares if you’re not the prettiest or the smartest or the funniest? You’re YOU and that in itself is fabulous. And like I said, the guys are noticing.
As a matter-of-fact, here’s a few checking you out right now:
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10 comments:
Great post, Tina! Yeah, it's always surprising when you find out someone might like you. that's how I felt in school, and then it was usually hard to believe it at first until I had some form of proof. haha!
Great post, Tina! I think we have all felt invisible as some point in our lives. Great pics, btw. I knew you'd sneak one of Marky Mark in there. And yes, I'm still calling him that.
Steph~
ps- We are reading the same book! And did you see my name in the acknowledgments? So exciting!
Yeah, Kelly, I agree. It always shocked and surprised me when guys liked me and I needed proof, too...
And Steph, yeah, you sorta knew either Marky or Sawyer would find their way in, huh?
And yeah, I SURE DID see your name in the acknowledgements of Sara's book. Woo Hoo!
You are so right, Tina!
What a great post, Tina! And so true...it's always funny to get to know people from high school years after you graduated, and find out what they really thought! If only we knew then what we know now...:-)
Thanks, Heather & Natalie. And for this reason--what I know now that I didn't know then--one of my favorite movies is still PEGGY SUE GOT MARRIED.
I can't believe all those hotties are looking at me right now and I'm not wearing any makeup!!! Oh, the embarrassment.
No, but seriously, great post. And very true. What a confidence booster!
Hi,
Let's try this again. I don't ever remember any guys that looked like these "hottie's" ever looking at me! And it's so true, it's easier to be a teenager when you are no longer one.
Janie
Alex--I suspect you're beautiful even without any make-up on! :)
Janie--And yeah, looking back, I'm not sure guys like this ever looked at me, either...but hey, it coulda happened!
Thanks for weighing in!
First of all, omg you hit the trifecta with those pics. Tom & Zac & Mark... mmmm.
Second of all, you are so right! I think it's so hard to realize this in high school because there are so many other social things to worry about, but I don't think guys can not check a girl out. Think about it. We check out all kinds of guys, right? Whether we're really interested or not (I know most of us are married) we can still have a peek. And maybe we wind up liking what we see more than we expected. The same goes for guys. =)
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